WOMEN. Be kind to one another.

You can do it! You are beautiful! You are smart. You can lose the weight. You are a good mother. You can get that job. You will graduate. This is a negative world we live in and a lot of the negativity is women on women, which is mind blowing. Do you know how much better of a world this would be if we were there for one another, to lift each other up in hard times, and to give each other the extra push we need to succeed. There are so many situations that would have a totally different outcome if we approached each other differently. You know that big girl in the gym, on her very first day of starting her weight loss journey? She can feel you staring at her, she sees you and your friend laughing because she is walking at a speed 2 on the treadmill or she isn‘t using a machine correctly. Well guess what? You just ruined her weight loss journey, she doesn’t want to come back to the gym, she’s embarrassed, and she’s depressed. Maybe the next time you see this person at the gym, you approach them and tell them how proud you are of them for taking this huge step in their lives, show them how to use the machine correctly, tell them you hope to see them back at the gym. Do you know what a difference that could make in their life? What a difference that could make in their weight loss journey?! Maybe that was exactly what they needed to push their self to come back to the gym! Another thing is calling someone ugly or commenting on their picture that they should be embarrassed of posting it because they look bad. Did you ever sit back and think that maybe she took 1,000 pictures and hated every single one because she thinks her nose looks to big or she doesn’t like her smile, and she finally chose this one picture because she thinks she looks good in this picture, she’s confident in this picture, and then here you come calling her ugly or making her feel bad about herself. Shame on you. You might be the reason she commits suicide today. If you would have said oh my goodness, you are beautiful, I love your hair that way, your eyes are gorgeous, you would have made her day, but instead you could be the reason for her death... do you understand that?! Stop the fucking mom shaming! Yes, not every mother is a good mother unfortunately BUT majority of the time Mother’s are making other mothers feel like shit because they believe in spanking, or vaccines, or allowing their kid to play in dirt, and just because you don’t believe in those things, it doesn’t give you the fucking right to make her feel like a bad mom. Maybe she’s feeling like she is a bad mom today because she yelled at her child because the child just wouldn’t stop talking (cause that’s what kids do) but she felt bad immediately after, she wish she were more patient, and she wish she handled the situation differently but you know what?, that doesn’t make her a bad mom, that makes her a human. Here you come with your “mom of the year award” telling her how she should be ashamed of herself for yelling at her child, how she doesn’t deserve to be a mom. What do you think you are accomplishing by being mean? Now this poor woman who already feels like a bad mom, feels even shittier because you are an asshole, but she’s not a bad mom at all and if you would have approached her differently, her whole day would have been different, and she could find comfort in knowing she’s not a bad mom, she’s just a human being who makes mistakes, just like we ALL do. What you could have said was girl that does not make you a bad mom, these kids can truly be annoying sometimes, I don’t know anyone that enjoys their name being called 53 times in one minute. Next time maybe take a few deep breathes first and then calmly ask your child to use their inside voice or relax for just one second but remember that your child loves you no matter what and seriously thinks you are the bomb.com even after you just yelled at them. Please ladies, this is a fucked up world, the last thing we need is to be against each other. Let’s come together and build each other up, and accomplish great fucking things. Stop thinking that you are better than the next person, you aren’t. We all have our flaws and we all have things we would like to work on, and maybe if we approached each other with an open mind and with kindness we would discover that maybe “she” can help you accomplish your goal, and maybe you can help her accomplish hers. Wouldn’t that be nice? Well this is very much possible! I hate to be blunt but maybe you just need to take the stick out of your ass? Today tell another woman they are amazing, beautiful, capable of anything, and I promise you that will make their day and yours. Be kind to yourself Be kind to one another. This is a cruel world.