Why being a mom is hard.

In my opinion, being a mother starts being hard as soon as you find out you’re pregnant. It’s scary growing another human and your body goes through a lot of changes. With both of my pregnancies, having HG I was prescribed medication and was worried that it would affect my baby. I was worried that my baby wouldn’t grow properly or survive because I am throwing up all day and night for months. I would google the stupidest shit like “There is a pinchy feeling in my left lower abdomen, 2 seconds pregnant, is this normal?” And there would be something new every single day that I was googling to see if it was normal. Another reason being a mom is hard is delivering your baby. You could have a vaginal birth, csection, natural, drugs, epidural, and regardless of which one you had, delivering a baby just isn’t an easy everyday task. Ok, so now your baby is here and that is terrifying because although this is your baby, you have no idea what they like or why they’re crying. You’re frustrated because you really wanted to breastfeed but your baby has latching issues. Your baby might have to be in the nicu and that is so scary! You barely get any sleep the first few months, you don’t like the way your body looks. Hormones are a fucking bitch and make you “crazy”, postpartum depression happens to so many and is not discussed enough, and it sucks bad. Feeling like a bad partner because now instead of even having a 2 second conversation with them you go straight to bed as soon as baby does because you’ve been walking around like a zombie all day long. You are pretty much constantly worried and constantly questioning if you doing things correctly. You struggle to find time to please your partner, you struggle to find time to keep the house spotless. You want to work out but you’re too tired or you just cannot find the time. The first time your baby gets sick is scary and it sucks and it doesn’t get much easier all the other times they get sick throughout their lives. Mom shaming... you have all these other moms saying that what you do makes you a bad mom and then you start to wonder if you are and you stress about if you are doing things the right way. You are a good mom by the way. You barely ever get a break, you don’t go many places alone anymore, you pretty much have a kid up your ass 24-7. You have to worry about sending them to daycare or to school, you worry about the things you see on the news about children being abused at daycare, and then you have to worry “am I going to have to cut some bitch and live the rest of my life in jail?”. You have a 3 year old whose favorite word is no, and you feel like maybe you need to get their ears checked because they don’t listen to a fucking thing you say. You might have more than one kid and it seems like one of them always needs something. You barely get the chance to sit down, let alone eat or breathe and if you are someone who enjoys going to the bathroom by yourself... kids might not be your thing. I could probably go on and on and on about why being a mom is hard but as crazy as it sounds after reading this, being a mom is the most amazing thing in the world. I am so extremely thankful that I am able to experience motherhood. I love my children with every ounce of my being, even though they get on my last god damn nerve every single day, several times a day. This is pretty much why being a mom is hard from pregnancy to three years old because that’s all I have experienced so far but I know that there are so many more reasons being a mom is hard as they continue to grow older. If you have older kids, leave a comment and let me know why being a mom is hard at their age. Mamas keep killing it! 💪🏼👑💖