Why it’s so difficult to make mommy friends.

It seems that today more moms are against each other instead of building one another up in this crazy journey called “motherhood”. There is no perfect way to be a mother. One mom might believe in one method while you believe in the total opposite but guess what? That’s ok!!! Why do you feel the need to bash other mothers just because they do something a little different than you do? So you don’t believe in formula feeding, what makes you feel like you have the right to tell the formula feeding mother she’s a bad mom? You don’t and it’s really none of your freaking business. You believe in vaccines but the next mom doesn‘t, it’s THEIR child, let them do what they feel is best for THEIR child. One topic that completely blows my mind is that there are people who say you aren’t a real mom or you didn’t really give birth if you had a c-section! WHAT?! Are you kidding me? Do you really think that having a c-section is the easy way out? I’ve had two vaginal births, one of which was all natural- drug free, and I completely feel that having a c-section is so much harder! Do you realize that your stomach gets cut open? You are in a huge amount of pain afterwards! And having a c-section is almost always due to an emergency with the baby or the mom so who do you think you are telling a woman she isn’t a real mom because she had a c-section. I’d say she’s a pretty great mom for doing what was best for herself and her baby. Alright, so you’re a mom who likes to have a glass or two of wine when your kids go to sleep or maybe you like to smoke some weed. Good for you! Do what you need to do for yourself. It’s hard being a mom and there are so many woman who feel the need to put in their two cents when I can promise you their life isn’t all fairytales and rainbows. There is no guide to being the perfect parent. Every child is different, every mother is different, and what works for you might not work for someone else. I believe in spanking, you don’t, should that be a reason you make me feel like a piece of shit mother? My child eats noodles out of a cup while your child eats all organic fruits and veggies, should that be a reason you make me feel like a piece of shit mother? The list goes on and on of topics that some moms just feel they know what’s best and maybe they do know what’s best, FOR THEIR CHILD but you don’t have the right to make someone feel worthless just because they don’t agree with the same thing you do. If their child is fed, happy, loved, and taken care of that’s really all that should matter. Being a mom can be so difficult, why can’t we just all be there for each other! Of course you are allowed to your own opinions but do you really have to be so cruel about it? I’m very standoffish when it comes to making moms friends because y’all are just way to judgmental and mean. Are there any moms out there that are easy going? Moms that don’t live off negative energy? You just enjoy the company of having a friend you can talk to about the craziness that goes on in our everyday lives as moms. You support one another in your decisions, even if you don’t completely agree. You can tell each other about how big of an asshole your kid was today and how you just need a freaking break without the other person making you feel like a shitty mom because god forbid you said your sweet little 3 year old was being a real asshole today. Moms come on... you know you aren’t perfect, be kind to one another, and continue to kill it in this thing called motherhood the best way YOU know how.